Take Back Your Life

To me when you get married, it really means something. Now a days, it’s easy to disregard the vows stated on your wedding day, but when you get married before God it’s supposed to be until death do you part. And when you do get married, you believe whole heartedly your partner has the same ultimate goal you do - to live happily ever after.

To find out many many years later the person you married doesn’t have the same goals, it can be soul crushing.

You find yourself in the mid of the marriage, going to counseling, trying to work it out, maintaining businesses and work … all the while trying to take care of the home and man you’re with. Meanwhile, you both don’t have the same goals anymore. His mind is somewhere else, yet we stay.

Why do we stay?

What is it that makes us try so hard to make the other person love you?

We think to ourselves, what could I have done different to make him feel better about me?

Or, you think back to the moment where things changes, where he fell out of love, or when he ended up with someone else.

We start playing it all over and over in our heads until they make it feel like it’s you. They feed us lies until we believe it.

So, we continue on believing the lies.

We wake up each morning. We go to work. We take care of the home and we think thats enough for us. But after a while we’re so damaged from believing the lies that we stop believing in ourselves. We feel like we’re better off staying and holding onto what we have - unsure that we can find someone else. So we continue in a loveless marriage for what reason? I’ve asked myself these questions over and over.

Why did I stay?

If I’ve learned anything during this process it’s that we stay because we don’t see the true power and potential within ourselves. It’s when we leave that true healing comes. We begin to see ourselves the way the world sees us - as kind, loving, yet fierce. It’s when you pick up the pieces you’ve been broken into and face the world with your head held high that you realize you are enough on your own. You don’t need anyone to complete you. When you find the power within yourself to see what you truly deserve, you refuse to accept anything less than that.

So if you’re in a season of your life where you’re believing the lies someone has spoken over you. Understand that they are simply that - lies. Pick yourself up and face the new day.

There is so much good waiting around the corner when you realize how worthy you are of all the good in this world.